And as I thought, there's the King!
drskipper wrote: Thu Nov 15, 2018 8:43 pm
Yeah. Wife cheated on me and we just divorced after trying to make it work. I was depressed at first but I see this as a new beginning for me. Maybe I will find that special someone I deserve. It's quite scary living on your own for the first time at 32 lol, I have 2 dogs and my 6-year-old son with me every other week. I lost a bunch of money on the house we sold as the market is crap right now so I'm focused on paying off that debt and finally starting fresh! Also during the move, my car bit the bullet. I was lucky though and found a decent beater for $700 that I'm driving now for over a year.
Aw man that does suck. You've never lived on your own eh? Guess that would make it kinda intimidating. Such a different life than mine.
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I moved out and lived on my own for three years before buying a house with my asexual best friend and a cat. I've never really "settled down" (except for this which is way less stressful than having a rental in my opinion) and once in a while I date for a while (no one ever likes that they have to share my heart lol) or just go and hook up or whatever. You are correct though, it is a new beginning for you! It totally sucks and there's no mistake that it's depressing but life has this killer way of just making way for awesome new things when you invite them in.
I'll tell you this, almost every friend I have that's married, has kids, whatever–they tell me off to the side that they envy my freedom. I might have a couple ties now (the house just made sense though, it is cheaper than renting and we had the down payment saved) but not being in a relationship means I am free to just have fun with whoever I want, whenever it works. And life is full of all kinds of fun cheap things to do. You might finally get the chance to slow down or speed up, make friends, and have fun on those weeks you don't have your son with you. Now you can become a monk! Get a stripper! Whatever you want! Live the bachelor life! And if that's not for you like, you really just want love and companionship, of course there's a special someone out there for you. There's like... billions of humans in the world. Sure, most of them are inaccessible, not your age, whatever, narrows the pool a lot depending on your preferences, but there's probably hundreds of other people in Canada who you'd get along with fabulously that you just haven't met yet! Not everyone gets a chance to be free again and live the single life.
I don't believe in soulmates, I believe in soul experiences. As long as you welcome life to come at you with exciting new opportunities, you'll find them. It does suck, I respect your pain, some points of being alive are just plain crumby but as long as you keep pushing forward there's at least the chance for great new things to enter. I wish you the best of luck for your next year of journeying around the sun.